I do not love him, but another

Hello!

I am married to my husband for almost 19 years together and for almost 13 years. We have three children. has come to the world since the first child was clear that I kьmmere me to the family in the first place. But unfortunately it was from the beginning so that I had to zurьckstecken with everything and everything was a priority of my husband. That's not, I mean his profession he is selbstдndig and that was never a problem closed for me that he works a lot. He has always let me down, which did not matter, his things were more important. Thus, my love is broken to him Stьck closed for Stьck and I started to set up my life so that I also clearly came without him, for he never had time. 2 years ago it came to an incident in which the last of love is also broken yet addressed to him. We have lived side by side here and everyone has done his thing, and I had always kдmpfen dafьr if I, for example, want to leave some night, or once (!) wanted a week to the sport.
he last year then started schnьffeln in my phone and has submitted me a Verhдltnis with someone, but what I never had. Thus, confidence was also zerstцrt.
I then confided to me a friend who helped me and stood me schlieЯlich his love and I have admitted to me that he is more closed for me than just my best friend. We also met and it has simply angefьhlt only right as he took me by the arm and also has gekьsst me more, however, never happened. However, he is also married and has children. Anyway, it's all got out, his wife and my husband have experienced it. We have made several attempts to stay in touch, but it came out again and again, so that we no longer have any contact with each other.
My husband has forbidden me any contact what I understand from his perspective. But I love these people and I know that he loves me.
Me doing my husband sorry closed for what I'm doing to him. But what should I do? I can not just flip a switch or my husband play for the theater! I still love him, but more in the sense of friendship. I have often thought of separation. But I mцchte not do that to my children too. My husband has also SUBJECT TO CHANGE and really bemьht to make his wrongs.
But if they do, the Gefьhle are no longer there and the confidence is gone on both sides! And money alone does not stop also glьcklich!
I just weiЯ not know what to do.

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Quote by heart childHello!

I am married to my husband for almost 19 years together and for almost 13 years. We have three children. has come to the world since the first child was clear that I kьmmere me to the family in the first place. But unfortunately it was from the beginning so that I had to zurьckstecken with everything and everything was a priority of my husband. That's not, I mean his profession he is selbstдndig and that was never a problem closed for me that he works a lot. He has always let me down, which did not matter, his things were more important. Thus, my love is broken to him Stьck closed for Stьck and I started to set up my life so that I also clearly came without him, for he never had time. 2 years ago it came to an incident in which the last of love is also broken yet addressed to him. We have lived side by side here and everyone has done his thing, and I had always kдmpfen dafьr if I, for example, want to leave some night, or once (!) wanted a week to the sport.
he last year then started schnьffeln in my phone and has submitted me a Verhдltnis with someone, but what I never had. Thus, confidence was also zerstцrt.
I then confided to me a friend who helped me and stood me schlieЯlich his love and I have admitted to me that he is more closed for me than just my best friend. We also met and it has simply angefьhlt only right as he took me by the arm and also has gekьsst me more, however, never happened. However, he is also married and has children. Anyway, it's all got out, his wife and my husband have experienced it. We have made several attempts to stay in touch, but it came out again and again, so that we no longer have any contact with each other.
My husband has forbidden me any contact what I understand from his perspective. But I love these people and I know that he loves me.
Me doing my husband sorry closed for what I'm doing to him. But what should I do? I can not just flip a switch or my husband play for the theater! I still love him, but more in the sense of friendship. I have often thought of separation. But I mцchte not do that to my children too. My husband has also SUBJECT TO CHANGE and really bemьht to make his wrongs.
But if they do, the Gefьhle are no longer there and the confidence is gone on both sides! And money alone does not stop also glьcklich!
I just weiЯ not know what to do.First of all wьrde I, if I do not love my husband, separate me.

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Quote by heart childHello!

I am married to my husband for almost 19 years together and for almost 13 years. We have three children. has come to the world since the first child was clear that I kьmmere me to the family in the first place. But unfortunately it was from the beginning so that I had to zurьckstecken with everything and everything was a priority of my husband. That's not, I mean his profession he is selbstдndig and that was never a problem closed for me that he works a lot. He has always let me down, which did not matter, his things were more important. Thus, my love is broken to him Stьck closed for Stьck and I started to set up my life so that I also clearly came without him, for he never had time. 2 years ago it came to an incident in which the last of love is also broken yet addressed to him. We have lived side by side here and everyone has done his thing, and I had always kдmpfen dafьr if I, for example, want to leave some night, or once (!) wanted a week to the sport.
he last year then started schnьffeln in my phone and has submitted me a Verhдltnis with someone, but what I never had. Thus, confidence was also zerstцrt.
I then confided to me a friend who helped me and stood me schlieЯlich his love and I have admitted to me that he is more closed for me than just my best friend. We also met and it has simply angefьhlt only right as he took me by the arm and also has gekьsst me more, however, never happened. However, he is also married and has children. Anyway, it's all got out, his wife and my husband have experienced it. We have made several attempts to stay in touch, but it came out again and again, so that we no longer have any contact with each other.
My husband has forbidden me any contact what I understand from his perspective. But I love these people and I know that he loves me.
Me doing my husband sorry closed for what I'm doing to him. But what should I do? I can not just flip a switch or my husband play for the theater! I still love him, but more in the sense of friendship. I have often thought of separation. But I mцchte not do that to my children too. My husband has also SUBJECT TO CHANGE and really bemьht to make his wrongs.
But if they do, the Gefьhle are no longer there and the confidence is gone on both sides! And money alone does not stop also glьcklich!
I just weiЯ not know what to do.I have two questions for you:
1. What do you wьrdest / do when children wдren there?
2. Can you imagine to live another 20 years like this?

Our life is very limited. Glьck lдsst not be bought and gave away years can not be zurьckholen.
I am no friend of relationships that are maintained because of the children.
Mostly they are just the excuse to mьssen дndern nothing.
It's scary to go to a new uncertain life.

My ex-husband has run well in top form after I had separated and has bemьht himself plцtzlich implement everything that I have asked in vain before.
But it was too dafьr spдt. Are the Gefьhle died, the other can still so much bemьhen.
Above all, because there still are mostly rather half-hearted attempts, which were thought sure to keep as tatsдchliche insight.

Just as you describe it, it makes your marriage fortzufьhren no sense. Losgelцst from the other man, you should not you yourself the chance to take to share your life with someone you love and who loves you. You should not not waste to someone who you do not schдtzt it, even "closed for the children",

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Unabhдngig of whether someone other not exist or, my life wдre me too short and precious to spend it with a man I do not love. Apart from the fact that it to separate also closed for the man fair wдre, because who deserves someone who loves him.

The argument "I remain closed for the children" none is closed for me. Separation is certainly hard for children, but with unglьcklichen parents grow up well, children spьren that. And I mцchte set an example to my children that they themselves are responsible closed for her Glьck and not stuck in situations that are not good for them.

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Hello!

To your questions:
1. If we hдtten children and the situation wдre so I hдtte I have long separated. I then hдtte have my own job and wдre unabhдngig.
but I work with my husband, I am employed by him.
2. No, I can not imagine to live 20 years I

You're right. Probably it is genuine fear in a new uncertain life.

I know that the other loves me. But he will never leave his family, especially his children. The wдre be financial ruin, he told me himself. I wьrde immediately pull down my tent and go to him.
But it is anyway already doomed to failure.

And believe me, I try to forget it every day. to tell myself that it's better that way. But it will only get worse. ZerreiЯt me almost with longing for him. And is that bad, I weiЯ it's doing the same. But we MUST BE no contact have each other. From his wife and from my husband out.

My husband loves me, he says, at least. And he is doing everything possible to save our marriage. But long he has to also tired, he said.

Prefer wдre me, we wьrden friendly but still live together each his thing, as frьher make.
But I can ask him unlikely that wдre too selfish of me.

My life is not boring and I'm also in this sense not dissatisfied with how it lдuft if given the matter with the love not wдre

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Quote by heart childHello!

To your questions:
1. If we hдtten children and the situation wдre so I hдtte I have long separated. I then hдtte have my own job and wдre unabhдngig.
but I work with my husband, I am employed by him.
2. No, I can not imagine to live 20 years I

You're right. Probably it is genuine fear in a new uncertain life.

I know that the other loves me. But he will never leave his family, especially his children. The wдre be financial ruin, he told me himself. I wьrde immediately pull down my tent and go to him.
But it is anyway already doomed to failure.

And believe me, I try to forget it every day. to tell myself that it's better that way. But it will only get worse. ZerreiЯt me almost with longing for him. And is that bad, I weiЯ it's doing the same. But we MUST BE no contact have each other. From his wife and from my husband out.

My husband loves me, he says, at least. And he is doing everything possible to save our marriage. But long he has to also tired, he said.

Prefer wдre me, we wьrden friendly but still live together each his thing, as frьher make.
But I can ask him unlikely that wдre too selfish of me.

My life is not boring and I'm also in this sense not dissatisfied with how it lдuft if given the matter with the love not wдreIf he wьrde never leave his family, because it wдre be financial ruin, then he does not love you right.
He is supposed to leave not even his family, because he loves you, but because his relationship closed for him is no longer acceptable.

When my partner and I started it (unfortunately) too. I hдtte me gewьnscht a cleaner cut in hindsight, but I muЯte about this whole story just grow and grow.
As with you, catastrophic, loveless relationship, to know each other, in love.
From the first meeting to endgьltigen separation of the two parties went 6 weeks.
both never gone AngestoЯen Go Back by humans, in which one was in love, clear, BUT we wдren. The decision of separation fell losgelцst of the Begleitumstдnden, because I knew I wьrde NEVER again kцnnen love my ex-husband, after I learned what it means to be intimately and passionately loved and geschдtzt.

My partner and I both financially abandoned with the separation much more and live together more modest than before, but infinitely glьcklich for 3 years.
Glьck can not be bought and financial security does not make glьcklich.